The Worst Thing about the Pain of Being Human
Our pain of being human is always with us in any situations of life. It is present whether we are in sorrow or in relax moment. This is the worst thing of our pain that it doesn’t kill us in order to be free from it. We experience the pain as far as we live, whenever we face a new challenge, when we are in the process of loving, and when we find ourselves out of safe area.
There are some simple classic ways to recover from this suffering: making friend-relationship, sleeping, keeping ourselves busy, being relaxed and playful. Nevertheless, actively loving could better in handling the pain, because through this we give but at the same time we receive even more. Practicing love makes us feel better and lead us to real love as well. Being in real love is to accept and to come to our worst human ache instead of suppressing or avoiding it. Through that pain we try to manage ourselves so that we are free from pain domination. We can do more with our pain than suffer it. If we manage to face this suffering, our pain will grow less as our heart grow larger.
Happiness Seems Simple Enough
In fact happiness is not far from us as long as we can open ourselves to create and accommodate it in a proper way. Once we do something noble and worthwhile it comes by itself. Of course happiness is not a commodity that can be directly sought and bought in a store. The real happiness is integrated, remains deeply in our heart and leaves peace in us. One of the surest paths to happiness is through getting close to others. However, some people still keep distance from others because they realize that a relationship opens grieves as well. Without testing the pain in loving we will never realize the meaning of love, true happiness. Running away from others likewise just creates alienation and loneliness in which people grow cold. Happiness comes up in our relationships when we work in a respectful and loving way. By this we learn how to give and to receive in return. Intimacy is not a kind of thing that we can easily find if we want. On the contrary, it demands, again, trust and giving ourselves to those we love. Love encourages us to do things that we don’t even think that we can do. This what people call “the power of love.”
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The power of love
BUT, what is love, is love a two way thing? Can we love without being loved? Can we be loved by others if we do not love self?
What is LOVE, how do we know it’s LOVE?
If LOVE is pain?? how do we know if the pain is love or matter of fact is NOT love?
Why is love pain? Is love a feeling? and is the feeling the same for everyone? Or is love “invented” “created” direct mailed to each and everyone of us, as optimal goal, is this why we all run around in pain looking for something that does not exist or say exist in the “painted version”…
Maybe the PAIN of love is not existing at all, maybe we just wish to live in pain and find any possible reason good enough.
Lets change the ” love is pain” If it’ hurts, maybe it’s not love! if id feel good, maybe it’s love… The love I need you need we all need, might NOT be a need, but a dream, a fantasy, a illusion… What you need to feel good might not be what i need to feel good, as we all have different needs… Is love and a loving relationship between to individuals, when the 2 find each other and have the same needs? Need the same? One can wonder why people fall in love and say they love each other every day, when every day people also fall out of love!
If we where “peaces of a puzzles” we would fit for ever!! once found your place…
If we where all the same, like water in the river or ocean, we all would fit together, we would be ever changing, having highs and lows, hot and cold, peace and movement, and no one would feel hurt if the current was changing, it would just be normal and maybe even expected… and on we flow into new movements, new adventures floating in the movement and energy of the life of the river or ocean…
Where and why is it that we humans need to HOLD on to our love or loved ones? why is it we have to suffer in and for love?
Is it religion? is it to control? is it just the way we wish it to be to feel we are alive?
Maybe it’s just a matter of changing your vision of your ” given” (fed to you unaware and without choice from birth)
When Adam meed Eva, there was no choice, and did they fall in love? Did they love one another? They did not have much choice ( did they?) BUT we do today and the choice is for you to decide if love is to be pain or NOT!
Pia
Hope we all will find our own POWER OF LOVE…
Hi Emannuele.
I still alive and wishing to mmet you someday not to far
God is blessing us
Selamat berlebaran. Mohon maaf lahir dan batin.
It’s better to be alone than to mix with others who are against with you… It’s better to walk in the path alone than to walk along with others without peace of mind. Yes, happiness can find true having friends but to the situation you have because of judgment and criticism, you may want to be alone with God. True friends can be find but its always hard to find because of the some situation you have…. Mingling is one way of not alienating yourselves to others it helps but to build friendship is really hard sometimes to make for you feel different with them, someone who is not like them… I rather be like alone with Jehovah…. and just see the views alone… to see people walking around smiling at each other…. I am contented to see the happy people around not making alone in my environment…. plus the wonderful views that I could see through my eyes…. Sometimes pain teaches to be alone and you will think its better than to be with others…. Even sometimes you mingle with other people in a nice way yet it seems they don’t want you to be with them. They are not open for you to be in the circle…. People get annoyed because of you. If you just did not come in the circle there is nothing like this. Why need to do bad when it is not needed for good? True friends can find with true hearts.. Yes and it is the congregation of God… But it makes you different when it seems things are really different… Seeing yourself different with them….. I know this is me and can help myself be with them but only time and in God’s way can do things better…. It’s really painful to hear from your family that your sick.. Again and again every time you spoke with them about your situation. It’s a non-ending situation… “YOU ARE SICK…” Should I keep myself believing on their saying…. Why? if the others who are really concerns can make things be heard by my family??? I am tired of this situation… and I feel every time I feel this way to be gone instantaneously without pain and suffering… without knowing where will i gone just to ceased…. Yeah, i feel it’s better that way….
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